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Lesley Arfin – Dear Diary (2007)

DearDiaryI’ve read a bit of Lesley Arfin’s Vice column as well as a number of her thought catalog articles, although she is not someone that I follow religiously. This is such an interesting project and it makes me wish I had kept a diary so I could do something similar.

Essentially Lesley Arfin includes entries from her diary beginning in middle school up until College graduation. She annotates her entries with updates, interviews with the people mentioned and expert hindsight regarding certain events. Her entries deal with everything from crushes to being bullied, first boyfriends to ugly breakups, as well as her descent into drug use and addiction. It’s a bold move to publish the things you wrote as an angsty teenager, but Lesley takes it in stride and provides a really insightful look at growing up.

While I cant’ really identify with a lot of Lesley’s experiences, I think that there are definitely some girls out there who do, and should read Dear Diary to know that their not alone. Arfin mentions that this is one of the propelling forces behind her deciding to publish this book, and it’s a good call. Throughout her diary entries Arfin often notes how alone she feels, and if there a girls going through the same things that Arfin struggled with, it would be reassuring to know that they’re not alone.

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Pamela Des Barres – I’m With the Band (1987)

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From the Rory Gilmore Reading List seen in Season 3 Episode 16 (“The Big One” where Lorelei is reading it sitting on her couch.

Des Barres’ memoirs have often been called the quintessential read for anyone wanting to learn more about the 70s rock scene in LA. It is a good book, written well and honestly, but it tells more about the atmosphere of LA in the 60s and 70s then it does about specific rock stars. This didn’t disappoint me, but anyone reading this looking for behind the scenes stories about their favourite rock stars will not find them here.

Rather the book is about De Barres’ life, from fantasizing about being married to Paul McCartney, to her involvement with the “GTO’S,” a “groupie group” financially backed by Frank Zappa, to her involvement with Jimmy Page, Don Johnson, and Mick Jagger. While some of her relationships ended in heartbreak, De Barres has no regrets. My favourite parts of this book are the playful snipes and jabs she makes towards Robert Plant throughout. It is clear that the two were, and continue to be great friends, and it is fun to imagine Plant’s reaction when reading her writing.

De Barres’ has a follow-up novel, Take Another Little Piece of My Heart: A Groupie Grows Up, and maybe somewhere down the line, I’ll give it a shot.